Vulva Owners: 5 Tips How to Spice Up Masturbation (& Other Sexy Masturbation Ideas)

It’s no lie: masturbation is fun! It feels good, it’s a way to relieve stress, improve one’s mood, and comes with many other incredible benefits on our mental, emotional, and physical health. 

So, vulva owners, can you remember the first time, or the first few times, that you masturbated? How it felt, what you did, how you discovered your pleasure zones? 

For many, finding a satisfying way to masturbate feels like winning the lottery. And often, when we find something that works, we don’t feel the need to change it. You know the expression: “if it ain’t broke, don’t fix it”. 

But in this case, there are so many reasons why spicing up your masturbation routine can be a good thing. And let us tell you why… 

Ah, the clitoris! The most magical part of the female anatomy. Interestingly, the clitoris only serves one purpose! That is, pleasure! How amazingly powerful is that? 

For many vulva owners, clitoral stimulation is a go-to. It’s easy, it’s tantalising, and it often leads to orgasm. 

Want to know why?

Well, up until very recently, it was said that the clitoris has over 8,000 nerve endings. But new research by the Oregon Health & Science University has revealed that the clitoris actually has over 10,000 nerve endings.

This study is the most comprehensive of its kind as it’s the first known count of human clitoral nerve tissue.

But what does all of this mean? Well, nerve endings make the clitoris highly sensitive. So, when it’s stimulated, it has the ability to produce immense sexual pleasure, depending on how it is touched and how aroused you are.

With that, here are some new ways to spice up masturbating your clitoris:

• Slowly stimulate other erogenous zones sensually, such as the breasts or the inner thigh, then inch your way to the labia (the lips on the outside of the vulva). Take your time as you build up arousal and connect with your body. This will aid in arousal, making the clitoris swollen, which is key in achieving orgasm. Finally, touch your clitoris and masturbate at a speed and pressure that feels good.
• And then, for those who are looking for even more intense pleasure, you could stimulate the entire clitoris… not just the external part. You see, the clitoris is like an iceberg. The part that we see is only the tip. In actuality, the clitoris is shaped like a wishbone and extends inside of the body. To stimulate the entire clitoris, we suggest using either the LELO SONA Sonic Clitoral Massager or the LELO SILA Clitoral Massager. Both of these clitoral vibrators use gentle sonic waves to stimulate the entire clitoris, not just the external part. We recommend the SONA for those looking for more intense pleasure, and the SILA for those who are a bit more sensitive.
• Another clitoral masturbation technique is to tap your clitoris. Use light taps at first, and then begin experimenting with different pressures.
• You could use both hands during clitoral masturbation too. Use one hand to draw circles around the entrance of the vagina without penetrating it, and the other to draw circles around the clitoris. In this way, you can experience two types of stimulation at the same time, which will increase the variety of sensations you experience.
• Try edging! This is an incredible tool to use if you want to really build up your climax. It involves touching your clitoris until you’re close to orgasm, then backing off before you do. Give yourself a tiny breather, or focus on another body part, then bring yourself back to the clitoris. Do this as many times as you can, and trust us… the climax is well worth the wait.

Our fingers are entirely magical. And the things that we can do with them, to experience sheer sexual pleasure, are seemingly endless. 

The best part? You don’t need to run out and buy new gadgets and props! All you need is a bit of uninterrupted free time, and the want to connect with your body on an intimate level.

With that, here are some new ways to masturbate with fingers:

• A simple yet effective technique would be to rub your clitoral hood; a fold of skin that protects the clitoris. Or, you could rub near your clitoris without direct contact. Then you can begin teasing yourself using different kinds of pressure, etching your finger closer to your clit until finally, you move your finger on it with a desired amount of pressure.
• Masturbate with your fingers by using three or four fingers. Allow each finger to run over your clitoris right after the previous one. You can do this in a side-to-side or up-and-down motion
• For those with a sensitive clitoris, you could try the “peace sign” form of masturbation. This is when you use two fingers and position them as if you were making a peace sign. Then, press the peace sign just outside of your clitoris, on your outer labia. You could then move your fingers up and down or even grab your clitoris in between your fingers for a little more sensation.

We’ve briefly mentioned how you can orgasm with a vibrator, but we didn’t quite go into detail!

Truth be told, we couldn’t quite let you know how to spice up your masturbation without mentioning what is quite possibly the most pleasurable invention yet (the vibrator), could we?

Before we begin, it’s important to know that there are many different kinds of vibrators. There are different sizes, colours, shapes, and ways in which they bring you sexual bliss. Let’s take a look at a few different kinds of vibrators.

Clitoral vibrators are used to stimulate the clitoris and they’re used externally. Many of these kinds of vibrators are made in such a way to put pressure on the clitoris, which will stimulate all of those delicious 10,000 plus nerve endings. Then there are suction clitoral vibrators that use a sweet suckling action to really get your motor going.

To orgasm with a clitoral vibrator, it depends on the type of vibrator that you use. But mostly, it requires you to hold it on or near your clitoris in order to feel the sexy vibrations. You can practise different techniques and pressures in order to feel your very best pleasure and reach climax.

A G-spot vibrator is an internal vibrator that is inserted into the vagina to stimulate the G-spot. The G-spot is actually a part of the clitorial network, and is an erogenous zone found about five to eight centimetres up the anterior (front) vaginal wall. It has a distinct texture that feels slightly spongy and can be stimulated either by one’s fingers or a G-spot sex toy.

To orgasm using a G-spot vibrator means to find one that feels comfortable for you. This includes the shape and size. A G-spot vibrator will have a curved tip, which is key to achieving orgasm. The curve is needed to really reach that beautiful erogenous zone. 

You could opt for a dildo or a vibrator, and both can be entirely erotic and arousing. Using a G-spot vibrator to orgasm usually means holding it in-place and not using the thrusting motion. But be sure to read your new toy’s directions in order to use it for ultimate satisfaction.

A dual stimulation vibrator is a magical creation and includes both clitoral and G-spot stimulation, simultaneously. Imagine a combination of the above mentioned vibrators… double bliss. 

To use a dual stimulation vibrator to orgasm, you’ll simply insert one arm into the vagina to stimulate the G-spot and place the second arm onto your clitoris. When you turn on the vibration and find your ideal setting, you’ll feel the sexy vibes on two erogenous zones at the same time.

While anal vibrators are genderless, we just had to mention them for vulva owners. The anus, just like the clitoris, is rife with nerve endings making it a hot spot for anal orgasms. Not just that, but when you experience anal stimulation, you’re indirectly stimulating the G-spot and the A-spot. Yes… the A-spot.

The A-spot is a smooth area found on the front wall of the vagina, next to the cervix. It is about two centimetres deeper than the G-spot inside of the vagina, and works by increasing natural lubrication. 

Stimulating the A-spot also has the power to make a vulva owner more aroused, and has the capacity to induce stronger orgasms. With that, it’s a no-brainer that using an anal vibrator can produce strong orgasms. 

Of course one would need to enjoy or be intrigued to try anal stimulation. If you’re a newbie, take it very slow and always use a generous amount of lube (more on lubricants below).

If you feel any pain or discomfort, take a pause. Slow and steady, insert your chosen type of anal sex toy and experiment with ease following the toy’s instructions. 

And so, now that we’ve covered the basics and some new ways vulva owners can masturbate, let’s move onto a different topic. That is, ways to really spice up your masturbation sessions.

These 5 ways are out-of-the-box thinking and can ramp up your self-love sessions into something even more special and transcendent.

If you want to tease yourself, keep your panties on during masturbation. It’s a super non-threatening and non-invasive masturbation technique that can bring about new waves of pleasure, and it offers you the chance to explore sensations with different textures. 

To masturbate with your panties on, you can either use your fingers to glide on your clitoris and vulva, or you could add in a bullet vibrator or a massager into the mix for even more euphoria.

Go on a different kind of adventure with a wearable vibrator! These gorgeous sex toys come in two different styles: some are inserted into the vagina and sit comfortably in-place as you wear your clothes. Others are worn externally, resting sweetly on your clitoris and vulva, then vibrating with ease (such as the Frida Wearable Vibrator). They either come with a remote control or can be controlled via an app. 

In this way, you can enjoy a secret bout of pleasure in public or private. Can you imagine anything more erotic? 

Instead of using your fingers or a sex toy, you can get yourself riled up with something you have at home. A cushion, for example, is a favourite for many.

Simply find an object that’ll stimulate your vulva and/or clitoris, lay on your stomach and grind or hump. This can really raise your levels of arousal, and may lead you to want to touch yourself even more intimately due to your rise in libido. 

We talked about dual stimulation briefly, and in case you haven’t tried it—we really recommend that you do! This kind of pleasure can be way more intense than a clitoral or a G-spot orgasm, as it’s giving you double the amount of sexual release.

If you’ve never tried dual stimulation before, you might just have your mind blown, as it really is a different kind of sensation and climax.

Squirting isn’t for everyone, but if you feel like experimenting…what’s stopping you? Oftentimes, it is G-spot stimulation that causes a vulva owner to squirt. It’s all about the ‘come hither’ motion, which is when fingers are inserted and curled in such a way that it mimics the come hither gesture.

To make things easier, using a G-spot vibrator can be a lot more comfortable than doing the come hither motion on yourself.

How do you know you’re about to squirt? Well, it often feels as though you’re about to pee. A lot of people feel intimidated by this, believing that it is actually pee that comes out. We suggest relieving your bladder beforehand to remove any anxieties.

Just remember though, not every vulva owner can squirt. There’s nothing to be concerned about if you don’t. But there’s no harm in trying…just for fun!

Moving onto a different topic, let’s chat about lube! The thing about vulva owners is that the vagina produces natural lubrication under the right circumstances (when they’re aroused, for example).

But there are things that could cause one to not create enough lubrication. And even if that isn’t the case, an extra bit of wetness is always lots of fun. 

There are so many types of lubes, and finding the right one for you can really make a big difference in your play time.

Our Sex Au Naturel line is a collection of intimate wellness products that have been created from a holistic standpoint. It places a big focus on nature, and uses plant-based ingredients. They’re also free of phthalates, glycerin, colourants, sugar, and gluten.

Sex Au Naturel aside, let’s answer some important lube questions…

Coconut oil is generally safe and effective to use as lubrication. Plus, it’s super slippery and moisturising.

You may fancy our Finger Play Gel that’s water-based, and tastes and smells just like delicious coconut. It’s also compatible with suction toys, which is a plus! 

One thing about using pure coconut oil though is that it’s usually not compatible with sex toys and condoms. So just be aware of that.

Vaseline isn’t the best thing to use as lube for masturbation. Yes, it may reduce friction, but it could also introduce bacteria to your intimate area that may lead to an infection. 

Vaseline also contains petrochemicals, so it’s probably not a good idea to use it as a lubricant…especially if you’re wanting to use it internally.

This is a tricky one. Some lotions contain ingredients that can irritate the skin, such as alcohol, preservatives, and perfumes. With these kinds of lotions, you could experience dryness, swelling, and redness.

In addition, most lotions may interfere with the vagina’s natural pH and harm healthy bacteria.

On the other hand, if you do want to masturbate with a kind of lotion, we recommend a water-based lotion/lube.

How to masturbate with lotion would include putting a generous amount of it into your hands or onto your intimate area to create a wet and slippery effect. 

We do suggest that you look at the ingredients beforehand though, and to make sure that it’s safe for internal use. 

While the things we’ve talked about above are merely of a physical nature, there’s a pertinent part that we’re forgetting. And that is, self-love… a connection of the body and the mind during masturbation. 

Participating in the physical act of masturbation comes with its perks, yes, and oftentimes leads to orgasm. But there’s something particularly powerful that can also come about when we use our entire bodies to engage in pleasure. This is essentially when you feel a deep connection with yourself and your body as you navigate your most pleasurable zones.

You see, for the longest time, masturbation has been seen as being a taboo. There is still a lot of shame surrounding those who masturbate, especially for vulva owners, and there’s still a stigma that is sometimes unshakable. 

Instead of taking on that attitude however, we want to change the narrative. This can be extremely difficult however. Look at sex education for example. Masturbation and self-love through physical touch is not taught in schools. 

“Not teaching people about masturbation creates and reinforces the idea that masturbation is a shameful practice, which is based on moral judgements and not evidence-based public health”, says Andrea Barrica, founder of O.school. 

But when you look at masturbation through a different lens, one that releases shame and guilt, and shows you that masturbating is one of the highest forms of self-love, you’ll reap the benefits. 

You’ll soon learn that masturbating can boost your self-esteem as you spend quality time with yourself. It’ll also allow you to find out what feels pleasurable and what doesn’t. Oftentimes, masturbating gives you the space to love and accept your body (even more).

In other words, during the physical act of masturbation—yes, you are taking care of your physical needs—but you’re also setting your brain on a new path that is self-love, self-acceptance, and self-care. 

Knowing about your sexual needs and honouring them is an act of self-love. Knowing your desires and how to fulfil them yourself is an act of self-love.

So, when it comes to the bottom line, we suggest remembering that the clitoris only serves one purpose: pleasure! Masturbating is not shameful nor taboo, it’s a basic need!

And there are so many fun, innovative, and adventurous ways to do it.

We simply love it when vulva owners embrace their bodies, and use their solo self-love sessions to connect with themselves on a deeper level.

It’s a body-mind experience that comes with many benefits, making it something to be enjoyed guilt-free and lustfully.