If you ever had the experience of waking up in the middle of the night with the feeling of tingly warmth spreading over your body, you've probably had the pleasure of experiencing a sleep orgasm, otherwise known as a wet dream.
Wet dreams are often associated with hormonal teenage boys who have sex dreams in their sleep and orgasm during them, but the reality is very different. People with vaginas can have sleep orgasms even well into their adulthood. And it's an amazing experience.
Many people also believe that our sexuality and sex dreams are deeply linked to our spiritual being and can be used to better understand ourselves, predict events or help us choose the right path. So, if you're wondering what wet dreams mean spiritually, you've come to the right place.
What Is a Wet Dream?
A wet dream, aka sleep orgasm, aka nocturnal emission, is when you involuntarily orgasm in your sleep. It might happen during an erotic dream, or it might happen without dreaming at all.
When it comes to the meaning of wet dreams spiritually, most often, people talk about the sex dreams you remember well, and that evoke strong emotions during them.
Why Am I So Wet When I Wake Up?
The term "wet dream" comes from the fact that men ejaculate when they orgasm in their sleep and wake up to wet clothing or bedding due to the semen being released.
For the longest time, wet dreams have been associated with adolescent men. However, women have wet dreams as well. It might just be harder to realize it for them because not everyone wakes up during nocturnal emission. It's hard to say precisely how common sex dreams are because for this reason.
But chances are, if you wake up wet in the morning, then you've probably had a sex dream and experienced a sleep orgasm. Some people might wake up wet almost every day. If you're one of those people and find yourself asking, "Is it normal to have wet dreams every day?" know that you're definitely not alone.
Sleep Orgasms Are for People of All Genders
Back in 1954, when sex researcher Alfred Kinsey researched sex dreams, he found that even 70% of women had had sexual dreams in their lifetime. He also found that for 37% of women, sexual dreams brought orgasms. A later study published in The Journal of Sex Research found that 44% of women "experienced nocturnal orgasms in the past year.
For men, these numbers are higher. Research shows that 83% of men had had a wet dream. However, the numbers might vary because it is harder to tell for women whether they had a sleep orgasm or not if they didn't wake up during or right after experiencing it.
Are Wet Dreams Spiritual?
Many people believe that wet dreams are spiritual and they can have significant spiritual meaning when interpreted correctly. For many, wet dreams are a way to connect with their higher self through their sexual energy and find a better understanding of themselves and their environment.
What Do Sex Dreams Mean Spiritually?
Wet dreams' spiritual meaning will be individual for everyone. Some might consider it to be a form of meditation because when you're asleep, your body is in a complete state of relaxation. Others use sex dreams as a way to connect with their unconsciousness and receive messages from the higher self that they're unable to connect with while awake.
When it comes to finding the spiritual meaning of wet dreams, it's important to avoid reading into your sex dreams literally. Just like with regular dreams, a lot of things you experience during sex dreams are symbolic.
For example, if you have a sex dream where you have sex with your boss, it doesn't mean you want to have sex with your boss. You should look for symbolism and what the act of having sex with your boss might mean to you and your life.
Spiritual Causes of Wet Dreams
So, if you've been having a lot of wet dreams, you might be looking to find what causes the sex dreams you've been experiencing. There can be many different spiritual causes of wet dreams:
Change of Season in Your Life
Sometimes, a reason why you have wet dreams might indicate that you're ready to enter a new season of your life. It could be that you've moved on from something that was holding you back, like a past relationship, and now you're ready for new love.
Or it could be a sign that you've made peace with your past or a certain part of yourself that has been bothering you before, and now you're ready to move on and start a new chapter. Try to listen to your gut and figure out what feelings and emotions you felt after the reoccurring sex dreams.
You're Missing Your Ex
Some people report having intense sex dreams after a breakup with their partner. As you go about your day, you might not be thinking about your ex, simply to avoid the pain. But when you're sleeping, your mind is relaxed and open, so you're unable to control it.
So, if you find yourself dreaming about having sex with your ex, it might indicate that you have some unsolved feelings left towards them or that you're simply not yet over the breakup pain and are missing them.
It's important to note that sometimes, dreaming about having sex with your ex can be not about the person but about you missing that time of your life or how you, yourself as a person, used to be.
The Desire for Change
Dream experts believe that dreams can be visions we see of the reality we're able to create. When we dream of having sex with certain people, it often can indicate our desire to have the qualities the person we have sex with within the dream has.
Maybe the person you're sleeping with has character traits like assertiveness or confidence that you lack. Your dream might be trying to tell you that these are the qualities you want to focus on developing.
So, when interpreting your sex dreams, don't shy away from digging deeper into how certain things made you feel and what parts of your dreams were the most attractive.
You're Ready To Get To Know Yourself
Sometimes, the person you're having sex with within the dream can be a symbol of certain character traits you've been denying or struggling to make peace with. If you find yourself having sex with a figure that is shadowy or "negative," then it might mean that you're ready to face that side of yourself you've been hiding.
Your sex dreams might also give you an insight into your current relationship and friendships and how you truly feel being involved with people in your life. It might be hard, but look into your dreams and try to understand the symbols they present to you and what emotions and feeling they evoke.
In some cultures, wet dreams and nocturnal emissions are interpreted as spiritual attacks. Some people believe that spiritual attacks are caused by the negative energy sent your way. This can be particularly dangerous due to how sensitive you're in your sleep when your body is in a state of complete relaxation.
Then, there is also the belief that sex demons visit people in their sleep and have intercourse with them in their dreams. These demons are known as incubus and succubus (male and female counterparts), but the names change depending on the cultures and religions.
In Christianity, it's believed that these sex demons use sexual intercourse in the dreams to plant "evil" thoughts inside people's minds and they can leave their victims emotionally and spiritually drained. All of that is used to ingrain fear and doubt towards your faith.
How To Have a Sexual Dream
You might be still looking to experience nocturnal orgasms and see what it's all about. While there is no guarantee of having an orgasm in your sleep, there are a few things you can try if you're looking to find out how to have a sex dream:
Get Hot and Bothered Before Sleep
If you go to bed aroused, the chances of you experiencing a wet dream are higher. So, play with yourself or your partner before bed, read or listen to erotica and watch porn. Masturbating before bed can also help induce wet dreams. Whatever helps you get into a pleasant arousal state will increase the likelihood of experiencing a wet dream.
Sleeping naked might increase your chances of orgasm in your sleep. The friction of the sheets against your naked body can increase your sexual arousal, leading to sweet orgasms. You might even want to try placing your duvet between your legs as you lay on your side so your clitoris can touch it at a better angle.
Sleep on Your Stomach
Just as the study we mentioned above suggests, sleeping on your stomach increases the friction of your bed against your genitals, increasing your chances of nocturnal orgasm. It's even better if you sleep naked, so your body touches the bed without a barrier.
How To Stop Sex Dreams Spiritually
While wet dreams can feel amazing, and one shouldn't be ashamed of experiencing them, if they are intrusive and reoccurring often, it's natural to want them to stop. So, let's talk about how to avoid wet dreams or even how to stop having sex dreams entirely.
The easiest way to make the sex dreams stop is to address the spiritual message your dreams are trying to send you and take action. If you continue ignoring the message that your wet dreams are trying to convey, they'll keep persisting and nagging at you until you decide to act on them.
So, if you know the message your wet dreams are sending that you should open your heart and accept the fact that there are changes coming into your life, then you should become proactive and accept those changes. Or, if the message is that you should take control of your life, then that's exactly what you need to do.
Together with these spiritual practices, you should avoid any physical stimulation to help you avoid having wet dreams. Minimize things like watching porn, consuming erotica in any format, and having sexual fantasies before sleep.
Is a Wet Dream a Sin in Christianity?
Wet dreams are mentioned a few times in the Bible as nocturnal emissions that happen to men. Because it's hard to interpret what exactly each passage means, it's natural that many Christians find themselves asking, "Is it a sin to have a wet dream?"
The answer to this question is very simple: no, wet dreams are not considered a sin. It's a natural part of the human experience that you have no control over. However, some Christians believe that wet dreams can be a cause of sinful thoughts one might have of desires that are forbidden by the Bible, which could evoke them.
Wet dreams are a topic of conversation in many other religions as well. And in most other religions, they are regarded as a natural thing, sometimes even a positive. For example, in Hinduism, it's believed that wet dreams could be a sign of fertility. And Islam regards it as a sign of intercourse between a wife and a husband, which is considered to be a good sign.
No Need To Feel Ashamed
Some people might experience shame and anxiety about experiencing wet dreams during their sleep. However, there is nothing to worry about when it comes to orgasm in your sleep. It's a natural thing that happens to many people, and it's an indication of healthy sexuality.
It's not a sign of whether you're happy in your relationship or your sexual relationship with your partner. It's not necessarily something sinful and can be a way to build a deeper connection with your spiritual self as well as your sexuality.
However, if you are struggling to cope with frequent or reoccurring wet dreams, it might be worth talking with a therapist who can help you deal with any negative emotions you might be experiencing.