Bondage for beginners: Unleash your dominant (or submissive) side!

You’re full of curiosity, but you don’t know where to start! One of the advantages of bondage is that, with the right information, any adult can start experimenting. This practice is as legal as any other, and as fun as all the rest!

Bondage is a fundamentally erotic practice, and it involves the total or partial immobilisation of a person’s body. It is normally seen as part of BDSM. With this in mind, you should know that any sexually-active person can get into this practice, but it takes a certain amount of knowledge, appropriate accessories, security measures and, of course, consent. 

The restraints, whether for the entire body or just one part, can be cords, belts, fabric, chains, handcuffs, or anything else which serves to immobilise. What’s the best recommendation? Accessories which are specifically conceived for such activities. Not only do accessories designed specifically for bondage bring an aesthetic edge, which is also desirable in this practice, but they are also much more comfortable and, above all, safe.

In the context of bondage, you can use gags or accessories which limit the senses. Blindfolds, for example, are especially practical. Depending on their size, they can also be used to bind other parts of the body such as wrists or feet, but you should be particularly careful when tying them so that the knot is not difficult to undo and can be released with ease. Knots are a craft all of their own and are not for beginners, especially those tied with cord, an accessory we don’t recommend for people starting out. 

 

The best accessories for starting out in bondage

Choosing the right accessory is important, as the quality of your bondage session will depend on it, as will first impressions and safety. This practice must ALWAYS be mutually consenting. A way of starting the conversation could be choosing the essential accessories for your first session. 

 

Here are the best accessories for getting started in bondage:

Shhh · Blindfold

The Shhh blindfold is an invitation to a very special encounter. This satin band can be used to cover the eyes, or as a way to restrain, so long as the knot used is simple and easy to undo. It’s smooth, elegant, and discreet. A must-have accessory for your first bondage sessions.

 

MAZE · Handcuffs and bracelets

Handcuffs are a total classic but ensure that the handcuffs you choose are suitable for beginners. MAZE handcuffs have been created for soft bondage, perfect for beginners where, whatever happens, the handcuffs can be released immediately. What’s more, they can be used as bracelets. Dare to have a go?

 

MAZE · Belt with chain

This very desired accessory has a secret double use. Its design means it can be worn with party dresses or jeans, but also transform into handcuffs with a chain so you can let your fantasies fly. Fancy a foray into bondage? Get yourself some accessories that good for using both in and out of bed. 

 

The best packs for starting out in bondage

Yes, just one accessory doesn’t sound like much. So, how do we choose the best one for starting out? How do we know if it’s going to satisfy our desires?

Starting anything new isn’t easy, it requires a certain investment of time and resources. But sex is all about trial and error until we find what really works for us, and it’s no different in bondage and BDSM. 

And Bijoux Indiscrets has the perfect prelude for your initiation. Take a peek at the perfect starter packs for bondage. 

  

Instruments of Pleasure · Orange

Eye mask, satin restraints, and a massage candle to pleasure every nook of your body.

 

Instruments of Pleasure · Purple

Eye mask, satin restraints, and a vibrating bullet to reach orgasm like never before.

 

Safety in bondage

When partaking in bondage, like in any sexual practice, consensus is key. Without consensus, it’s a no-go.  To reach an agreement about bondage, you need very clear, euphemism-free communication. Calling everything by its name and talking about what we desire in clear terms will mean that future misunderstandings or unpleasant situations can be avoided. Despite being one of the pillars of BDSM, bondage should always be pleasurable and desired.

As we already said, using appropriate accessories is essential. When one of the parties says stop, things should stop immediately. This is hard to do if the accessories being used are not easy to undo, especially if we lack experience. 

And, what happens if we participate in roleplay or the like where fantasy and reality begin to blend into one?

Naturally, there are many fantasies in which resistance is part of the game. How can we add this element without foregoing consent? Easy: with a safe word.

While discussing the rules of play (something good in any practice, not just bondage) you can add a safety word which triggers a total halt to proceedings. Use short words which are easy to remember, memorable and unrelated to the activity.

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